Saturday gatherings or what women are worried about

It was a snowy Saturday night when I parked my car at the entrance to the restaurant. There a girlfriend with her new companion was waiting for me.
I was a little worried. He is 20 years older than us, how to talk to him? What about dad? Or as with a peer? I wonder what their generation is laughing at and discussing.
Having clasped a cheerful smile on myself, I stepped into the twilight of this establishment ... And then my gaze caught the lonely figure sitting at the table. It was she, my Zhenya. To my dumb question she smiled and said that her lover was tired and was sleeping at home, would come soon.
We had little time to talk alone with her, about her feelings, about her expectations. And indeed, after the phrase they lived happily ever after; there were many pitfalls. I was surprised by the fact that a young beautiful and self-sufficient at first glance woman is afraid of losing an elderly unlikely man with a bunch of age-related moods and troubles.
What is it? Is it really that low self-esteem? Or is it the all-consuming power of love? But then the fun began for me. Her friends began to come. And then I thought, what are we all different. Sometimes it seems to me that I'm from another planet.
One came and began to show all of us photographs of her children. I sat and thought, why? I am surprised by women who expose their children everywhere, show them to everyone. I don’t understand what is the point of this? Show off or show your maternal viability to friends? The next friend came all languid and tired and began, rolling her eyes, telling how difficult it was for her to manage a large team, what torment she was experiencing. Again, the question of who is interested in the work of office plankton?
I understand if you are a circus artist and your tigers have bitten off your arm or head, this is the story. In general, how do people select topics for conversation? What do they rely on in their choice? Personally, when I tell another story, I try to make it at least funny. Because who cares about our problems besides ourselves? Why should they load someone?
So, returning to Zhenya ... At the height of our evening in the terrarium her narrowed came. But a quiet family evening did not work, because he complimented one of his friends and a mess began with tears of jealousy and other attributes of a female hysteria.
Sometimes it seems to me that I don’t have a female mindset, I try not to recognize a woman’s tantrum without a subsequent constructive analysis of the “flight”. I honestly tried to help, explaining that she should not be jealous and afraid of losing the elderly womanizer, but he would tremble with fear that his ardent lover would go to someone younger. She cried and said that she had removed all the men from her life except him.
I had a real shock. I tried to explain that it is wrong to focus on one man, even if he is objectively the best. Around a woman should always remain men who lust for her. This is not treason, it is a kind of safety net. This is a kind of incentive to take care of yourself, it is an opportunity not to cling to your man. It doesn’t matter whether he told you a compliment or not, there will always be someone who appreciates your beauty. Then the situation in the relationship is more calmly stable, there are no extra vagaries.
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